Gay Adoption

GAY ADOPTION

 
All children deserve a mother and a father

by Les Govment

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(Author’s note: My following comments on the topic of adoption aren't meant to disparage gays-- I simply support what is best for children in need of adoption. I also believe that, ordinarily, single people-- myself included-- should not be allowed to adopt children.)

The American College of Pediatricians has concerns about gay parenting and is an advocate of father-and-mother parenting:

 
"The family environment in which children are reared plays a critical role in forming a secure gender identity, positive emotional well-being, and optimal academic achievement. Decades of social science research documents that children develop optimally when reared by their two biological parents in a low conflict marriage. The limited research advocating childrearing by same-sex parents has severe methodological limitations."

 
No one really knows how many children in the U.S. live in gay-led households-- estimates range from hundreds of thousands to several million or more. In any case, the nationwide establishment of civil same-sex marriage will likely eventually lead to a sizable increase in the number of children adopted by gays. I think it would be a regrettable moral failure for society to allow that.

 
One reason why we as a society should disallow adoption by gays has to do with parental example during childhood. Children are quite impressionable, and they learn much through example. Younger children in particular are imitators and will mimic things done in their presence by the adults in their lives. So, it’s important for children to have parents who are not models of anomalous romantic behavior. Children should be spared the confusion of things like seeing their two “mothers” smooching or their two “fathers” smooching, for instance. It might seem like a trivial matter for children to be exposed to things like that, but the cumulative effect of such things likely won’t be trivial when puberty starts. Let’s not forget that young, impressionable, developing minds are at issue.

 
Another reason why gay adoption shouldn’t be allowed has to do with parental guidance through the sexual development years. All kids need guidance as they go through the changes they encounter during the period formed by puberty and adolescence. They should be given age-appropriate sex education by their father or mother, not by schoolteachers. (Note: In saying “age-appropriate” I mean starting sex-ed at something like 10-11 years of age; I do not mean starting at kindergarten age.) Adolescents should also be given guidance in treating members of the opposite sex with proper respect (much of that guidance imparted through example). Gay partners-- because of their sexual orientation and because they are both the same sex-- are, at minimum, compromised in the task of properly guiding heterosexual kids through puberty/adolescence. If a person was born gay, he, or she, presumably didn’t personally experience heterosexual puberty and adolescence, and therefore lacks an important parenting asset.

I’m not demonizing gays here, and I’m not trying to demonize them. I’m simply pointing out that certain aspects of the homosexual life are incompatible with raising children. Children in need of adoption deserve to go to married heterosexual couples (good couples) because that aligns with the norm imbedded in human nature.

 
Adoption isn’t supposed to be about fulfilling the lives of adults. The adoption process should always maintain what’s in the best interests of the children. People should have to fulfill certain requirements in order to be allowed to adopt, and normative sexual orientation (heterosexual) should be one of several requirements. Normal gender identity should also be required. Furthermore, gay adoption should not be treated like a civil rights issue by the courts, because there isn’t any such thing as a constitutionally-guaranteed right to adopt.

 
Surrogacy

Surrogate motherhood is immoral and should be classified as medical malpractice.

Marion Maréchal-Le Pen, CPAC 2018:

"Today, even children have now become merchandise. We hear now in the public debate:

 
'We have the right to order a child on catalogue. We have the right to rent a woman's womb. We have the right to deprive a child of a mother or father.'

"No you don't; a child is not a right."

Every child deserves-- and is essentially owed the right-- to be conceived and raised by a responsible mother and a responsible father in a committed relationship. There is no such thing as a natural right to use artificial means (such as artificial insemination) to conceive offspring outside of a committed, opposite-sex relationship.

The human race consists of two sexes, each sex having its own set of nature-based, gendered traits. Adhering to the natural method, it takes one male and one female to conceive a child. Love, commitment and the sexual bond-- combined with good morals-- are basic ingredients of a good marriage. In turn, a good marriage is the cornerstone that’s needed to build and maintain a good, cohesive, traditional family-- ultimately contributing to a better society. //

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